Tired of geting gay throun in face

But she knew from an early age that was what she wanted. But if you're married it's a bit of a taboo subject," she says. They've kind of disowned me because I'm with a woman," she says. Betty Harper is so "sick and tired" of trying to find a church where she feels truly welcomed as a gay woman that she is planning to start her own.

Marriage between two same-sex people is still a "taboo" in some churches, in Betty's experience. Perhaps ironically, it was through a church that she and her partner Hannah first met, after Betty and her mother visited an old place of worship that her future partner attended.

The gay community loves flaunting their lifestyle in your face. Betty has travelled a long road to accepting her sexuality. In most cases, it’s a reaction to simple acts of existence. Betty Harper's first attempts to talk about her sexuality with her family did not go well.

It has led to a breach with her father's side of the family. I wasn't attracted to the boys [but] I was attracted to the girls. But she was also told not sing or perform on stage because "we wouldn't want you to influence the younger people, and you couldn't be a role model for them".

She was like, 'hang on that's ridiculous, why can't you be accepted for being gay? Betty and her fiancee Hannah first met through a church. However, when she initially embarked on a relationship with a woman, she went through a crisis of belief. She works as centre manager for a Christian charity offering community support and aid to the people of Rhyl, Denbighshire, taking over from her mother who helped establish the charity out of a church during the Covid pandemic.

Betty's life is intimately bound up with her religion. At one church, initially welcoming to the couple, Betty says she was told after consultations with members of the congregation that she could attend choir rehearsals. You watch, a major, major backlash is gonna come and people are gonna get hurt more than ever before.

“Shoving it in their faces.” It’s an accusation as familiar to LGBTQ+ people as it is infuriating. Raised in a "very, very strict" Christian household, the message she heard growing up was that same-sex relationships were sinful. She even tried to use her faith to alter who she really was because of her conditioning.

The year-old charity worker from Llanddulas, Conwy county, is engaged to her partner of two years. But what does it actually mean? You are fatigued from all of the “gay stuff” constantly being shoved in your face; you are fine with the “lifestyle” but why can’t we just live and let live?.

She explains: "When I was younger I felt different to my friends. Her personal faith and relationship with Christianity is strong - it is clear to see it permeates every aspect of her life, and this remains the case despite some of the experiences she has had with churchgoers who disapprove of homosexuality, and have made that plain to her.

After conditions were also put on her partner working with the Sunday school, Betty says she "walked away". Both are Christians who want to find somewhere accepting to practise their faith but have so far not found what they are looking for locally. Methodist Church votes to allow same-sex marriage.

God made me who I am. Fabiano Da Silva Duarte, left, and Father Lee Taylor were believed to be the first same-sex couples to receive an official Church in Wales blessing on their marriage in , even though they could not wed in church. Living in constant fear of being outed, monitoring your mannerisms, and having to scan your surroundings to assess safety can increase anxiety and ultimately have serious impacts on mental health.

That's really hard for me to hear and it made me doubt myself, and it's that conditioning that needs to be unravelled," she says. Betty remembers first mentioning her ideas about her sexuality when she was in Year 8 and entering her teenage years. She and her current partner are now "unravelling" elements of past conditioning after "all those years of being drilled, 'you're going to hell, you're going to hell'".

You can't change how you feel. She has been told by one family member they pray they can go to hell in her place so she can go to heaven. Gay shame can refer to any feelings of inferiority due to your sexuality/gender identity. Although Hannah had not come out at the time she became a Christian, she still experienced anti-gay sentiments through Sunday services.