Theyre best friends so they have to be gay

News flash: if you’re only friends with a gay person because of the societal stereotypes tied to their identity, you’re not a trailblazing activist fighting against homophobia— you’re actually just contributing to the problem. No biological link exists between homosexuality and sass, personal style, aptitude to provide emotional support or any of the other ridiculous assumptions people have made.

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Sebastian says men can tell if a woman is pursuing a friendship to earn bragging rights by having a Gay Best Friend, so even if the men have no interest in fashion or gossip, they feel pressured by women to maintain character and fit the Gay Best Friend role.

In the case of duplicate or near-identical comments by the same user, only the first submission will be accepted. This includes comments posted across multiple articles. This reduces men to their sexual orientation and ignores other qualities that gay men, and the general human population, possess.

pop culture’s role With any set of. With politicians discussing the revocation of legal gay marriage, in addition to the prominence of hate crimes towards the LGBTQ community, Sebastian says gay men are looking for friendship and acceptance, especially when they first come out.

In the eyes of many females, it does not matter if this person shares the same political opinions or theological views, or whether they are loyal, intelligent, caring and genuine. He gives amazing advice because gays are more emotionally aware than straight men, but less gossipy than women.

Cancel reply. About a month after Sebastian came out, a female in his class realized she had an opportunity. Being a gay male in our present generation is a vulnerable, difficult, oppressive and lonely position for many to be in. Users who habitually post comments that must be removed may be blocked from commenting.

The gay community is diverse in ethnicity, socioeconomic status and religion; lumping such a variety of individuals into one role is ignorant. If males do not have emotional support, they will likely accept it from females who seek a Gay Best Friend. You can read more about our comment policy here.

For women who coin their gay friends as a GBF, the internal result is that they are completely accepting of homosexuality. He had been subjected to the obsession with the Gay Best Friend. Gay best friends are not Gay Best Friends. Do not perpetuate a stereotype and assume that a person is what you see in the movie theater.

Actually, there is no valid reason for any of the preconceived notions that exist about gay men. Don't go there unless you're sure; us gay people can mess around with women and still be gay, but straight people can't mess around with men and still be straight, at least by society's rules.

But what if gay men feel pressured to act a certain way because of the expectations this stereotype has placed on them? They are friends. When women specifically seek a Gay Best Friend, they consider gayness and nothing else. He makes the perfect shopping partner because an impeccable fashion sense is ingrained in gay men.

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This does not mean that women should not befriend gay males, or that every friendship between a gay male and a female is insincere — it is absolutely possible for a gay man and a woman to bond and create a guileless friendship. The idea of a Gay Best Friend has flourished because of the way homosexual men are perceived by women.

If you have things you need to sort through to better understand what it means to be gay, do that work on your own. It is okay to ask your friend a few questions if they are open to it, but if you have more questions and your friend doesn’t seem interested or comfortable talking about them, it is time to move on and do your own research.

Initially, when I first came out to my friends nearly eight years ago, my entire gay identity was informed mainly by Tumblr—so, middle and high school girls shipping “straight” men together (Johnlock, Destiel, Phan, any combo of One Direction members, almost any combination) and lowkey fetishization of gay-coded relationships and.

But it is very important that women realize the detriment of labeling gay men in an attempt to fulfill a social goal of having a Sassy Gay Friend.